Being in the military is not just about serving your country. It’s about forming strong relationships with the people around you. Whether you’re in basic training, on deployment, or back home, the bonds you build with your fellow soldiers make all the difference. I’ve learned a lot about this during my time in the service, and I want to share some simple tips that helped me build strong, lasting relationships with others.
- Stand by each other no matter what happens
The first and foremost lesson learned is how to support each other. You simply live with more than hold together in military service. Tough times come, whether through hard missions or personal struggles. The most common thing is to show up for your battle buddies. Whatever you face personally, things get easier when you’re helping another through an emotional time. Just a little “I have your back” means a lot. Being there when it matters is everything.
- Communication is everything
We all hear about this, but in the military, especially, clear and honest communication can just be a matter of life and death. As far as I am concerned, the best antidote to trouble is always to talk-it leaves little room for misunderstanding. Whether you’re checking in on someone about a task or just casually chatting, it builds trust. When you feel comfortable talking to someone, you also feel more comfortable asking for help when you need it. And believe me, we all need help sometimes.
- Respect differences
It is salient that people would meet in the military from many different life experiences. It would be so easy then to stay in your cliques or to hang out with those already of a similar mindset. But the strongest relationships I’ve had have been with persons completely different from me. Understand that and respect it. We each bring something entirely unique to the table. When we value each other for who we are, we can work together even better. A little understanding and respect can go a long way in creating a powerful team.
- Lead by example
As soldiers, we are often called upon to lead, whether we hold an official rank or not. Even when you’re not the leader, showing leadership by setting a good example is important. I have seen someone stay so calm under pressure, take ownership of his actions, and give 100% that the army will follow. It builds their belief in you and reliability in the cause since it shows that you’re in. It’s all about showing up as your best self and inspiring others to do the same.
- Keep the bond strong after service
Building strong relationships doesn’t stop when you take off your uniform. Some of my closest friendships from my military service continue today. The key is to stay in touch and support each other, even if life takes you in different directions. Whether it’s sending a message, catching up over the phone, or getting together for a reunion, keeping the bond alive after service helps you stay connected to the people who made a difference in your life.
Final Thoughts
Building strong relationships in the military isn’t just about getting through tough times together, it’s about creating a lasting bond that extends beyond the uniform. By being there for each other, communicating openly, respecting differences, leading by example, and staying connected, you can build friendships that will last a lifetime.
if you want to know more about such lessons that I’ve learned and how they can help you in your military journey, I invite you to read my book In Service: A Guide for Soldiers and Those Who Support Them. I hope this helps you on your journey.
